Lasts

So many lasts this year! Last fall choir concert, last musical, coming up on our last semester of high school.  It's been really fun so far, we had Maria's senior pictures taken a few months ago and even this morning, when it's like 38 degrees or something, it's so nice to look at them and think of where we were, in such warm weather and with Maria really enjoying the photo shoot and appreciating her youth and beauty in the moment.  At first it was funny to me to spend money to have pictures taken, when literally my senior picture is one that my sister took with me standing by a tree in the yard before I went to graduation.  But now I can appreciate what a sweet experience it was to have the time together when we took the pictures, and of course it's just - it's not that often that you can get all glammed up and pose and change three outfits and just - picture something in your mind how it's going to be and then it IS and now we have all these pictures of Maria in this exact moment in time.  

I read something recently that to be optimistic during hard times is an act of rebellion and I am really trying.  Things are hard right now - the stupid shutdown drags on, we are so worried about money anyway and now this - other stuff, it's just hard but I am determined to enjoy this time, to enjoy my life and our lives together.  But it's a challenge! 

Maria is doing great.  I feel like that's all I say on here! But it's true.  Over fall break we went to a campus visit at IU.  We went with some friends of Maria's and their moms and that was fun, it was a beautiful day, that campus is incredible.  It's 2000 acres and it has such history, I could really see her enjoying herself there.  One week later, we went to University of Cincinnati and it was wonderful too! It's so different, just 200 acres compared to the vastness of IU, and right in the middle of the city, super hilly and my favorite part was that the football stadium is in the middle of the campus.  U of C offers us in Central Indiana in state tuition, which is a great deal.  They have a pre-occupational therapy track that I think Maria would really like.  There are six hospitals right nearby and U of C does a lot with co-ops.  It feels a lot more like students are being prepped for life than it does at IU.  At IU it seems like there is a lot of focus on BEING at IU.  It's all very interesting, she is applying to Purdue and Marquette too and we will see what happens.  

This weekend is the musical at school, Maria has a supporting role and she is great in it.  There's just three shows and I know it will be over before we know it, like every other thing this year. 

 

 I mean, I haven't written here for six years but it's funny to me, in the previous post I was talking about my kids doing more housework and guess what - they don't do any! Still the worst! Last night Mike made chicken parm for dinner, we had it with spaghetti and salad and garlic bread and it was super good.  I cleaned up afterward and everyone drifted away and then I realized there was still stuff on the table! It's so depressing to me, everyone leaves me and doesn't even clear the damned salad off of the table, or their glass.  Unfairness abounds.  

Maria is still a great girl.  She still is a busy person, but she doesn't bound out of bed like she used to.  She has been driving since April, she is doing really well.  She has good friends, a nice boyfriend, she is as involved as ever in everything.  It's hard for me to believe she'll be a senior in high school next year, that next year this time, we will be past her last musical in high school, getting ready for her last holiday concert, etc.  I wish she studied more, I hate for her to be surprised in college at the amount of work there is.  She really seems to glide through life, so far so good.  One thing that is new this year is that she drives Anthony home two days a week and that has been really nice.  It's easier on us, for sure, but also it's just nice that they are doing something together.  

I was just thinking if I post today and wait six years to post again, Maria will be almost 23 years old! I am really getting ahead of myself, ha ha, it's hard for me to believe she will be 17 in just seven weeks.  I know it's seven weeks because my friend Emily's daughter just had a birthday and I always remember when friends had babies before me, I am always so jealous of them ha ha! 

Maria has a duet tonight, singing with her friend SJ.  Santa Baby? Or something, it's not the Eartha Kitt Santa Baby, it's a duet between ... oh two screaming singers, Kelly Clarkson and someone? Oh lord I don't know, is the fact.  But she is exciting and she has been practicing a lot.  I hope it all goes well, you know, she is a very capable person but sometimes I can still see how little she is.  Wish us luck! 

Ear Infection

Maria had a rare ear infection last week, she had to stay home on Thursday, which was a bummer because I am home on Tuesday and Wednesday but it's super hard/impossible for me to get a sub on short notice so I had to go to work and even though it was month-end, wonderful Mike stayed home with her.  I suppose if he had to go and I had to go, she could have stayed home on her own for a few hours and I could have made a short day of it but I'd rather not do that quiet yet with her.

It wasn't until she was fell by the fever part that she even said she was sick.  She told me after we went to the clinic that she started feeling bad, actually, 'on Monday'.  Monday! She didn't want to miss gymnastics, or school, so she just waited until she absolutely had to go to the doctor.  I told her, you know, if you told me when you started feeling bad, we could have maybe not missed school, not gotten to the point where you had a fever.  She doesn't care, it's hard for her to slow down.

She made High Honor Roll her first quarter, we had a 'fun time' on Fall Break, we had a nice Thanksgiving, all is well with Maria.  She plays a lot with our neighbors, she has a lot of girls her age to be friends with, she is lucky and they all seem to get along well which is just great.

She wants - well I am trying, as ever to do: Something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read for Christmas.  So she wants a hamster or a fish or an iPad.  She needs to wear Vans, sweat pants, hoodies, pajamas.  She wants to read any graphic novel, any DRAMA, and she also wants an Xbox.  Luckily they all do so maybe they'll get one and they'll each get a game of choice, or a remote or whatever.

I learned the other day that she is 4 feet, almost 7 inches which means she's grown an inch and a half since ... many years ago, it seems.  I wonder if she'll ever be a tall or even a medium tall person, because right now she is the shortest in her class.

Here's some cute pictures, the one with the hat was from her Fifth Grade Explorer Wax Museum, where she portrayed Jean-Baptiste de Sable, the founder of Chicago.  Her teacher has them do super varied explorers, beyond the normal/problematic (Christopher Columbus, Marco Polo, Vasco de Gama).  He has them do many women (Amelia Earhart, Sacajawa, as well as many African ones, like Maria's).

Fifth Grade Student

Maria is doing just fine.  I have been going into her Fifth Grade classroom on Tuesdays to help her teacher, who is great and Maria's first male teacher, and it's so nice to see her.  She is really turning into a great student, and she seems to be a good friend, or at least she has a lot of friends who seem to like her.  She is still kind of a slob and she refuses to ever shut her lights, as we say in Brooklyn, but overall she is doing just great. 

How lucky we are, I think all the time, that she is so wonderful.  She gets herself up most mornings and if we wake her, she pops right out of bed.  She gets dressed in her whacky outfits and leaves for the bus stop 25 minutes early so she can spend time with her neighbor and friend, who also likes to get to the bus stop super early! She is always on the go, she usually gets home and races right back out to play with friends, but I mean, in so many ways what her pediatrician used to tell me about her, that her tenacity would serve her well some day, seems to be true.  She is a great girl. 

I am taking the three girls to Brown County State Park next week, they are on Fall Break and I am not, so I am taking them from Monday Afternoon, after I get off work, until Wednesday, before I go back to work on Thursday.  Mike will stay home with them Thursday and Friday. 

Lately I've been thinking I should have her do her own laundry, and Veronica and Felicity can follow.  Maria will be in Middle School next year, and while it's true I didn't go to Middle School until seventh grade, I was FOR SURE doing housework more than my kids do.  I think I am a little bit behind on it but I'm going to start.  It's too much, I am the only one who cleans the house and that is just too uneven.  It makes me deeply, deeply, deeply DEEPLY resentful of the mess makers. 

Well here are a few pictures of our own sweet Maria Kathleen.  Speaking of Kathleen, Kathleen Ann Murray, my childhood friend for whom Maria was middle named, is dead thirteen years this month.  THIRTEEN YEARS that we have been without her.  I think of her all the time, she was so funny and such a true blue friend.  ::claps hands briskly::  okay! back to it!

Ten Years Old

Maria is ten years old, so I imagine she'll be off to college soon! Ha! Kidding! She is still very much a little kid, with all little kid fun and problems, too.  Last night she was SUPREMELY sad about how she had no friends at school, no one liked her, etc. etc.  On Sunday at her Cheer party she won the Miss Spirit Stick award! Same girl! Same girl but one no one likes but also has the most spirit on the Cheer squad.

Oh it's awful to be ten, right? Even if you're Maria.  She puts a lot of her self worth into what other people think of her, which is a TERRIBLE idea, which I've told her over and over.  She wants to be friends with this popular girl in her class, because a friend of hers is also friends with this popular girl.  I think she feels like she is going to lose her friend to this popular girl and she is panicking and acting panicky, and freaking out every second of the day.  Last night I told her, look - you are going to school to GO TO SCHOOL and LEARN, not to freak out over this girl who I don't actually think is all that nice! Maria said, she's not! I said well then why would you want to be friends with her?  I mean, they are in a pretty small Catholic school.  What is the point?, I wonder 90 times a day.  What is the point of sending her to Catholic school if it's going to be so nasty and backbiting? Is there any benefit once they head toward middle school? I'm beginning to think the answer is no.

She is doing so well in school, she had straight A's for two quarters this year.  And it's really hard to get an A in their school, Veronica got a 93 in something and it was a B! We have the same scale at my school where I teach, so I'm familiar with it but man, it's still harsh, right? But Maria is doing so well, she narrated the Nativity Play at Christmas and did such a good job, she loves all the books they are reading, one was about a girl in WWII who hid and saved another girl and now they are reading Sarah, Plain and Tall.  She got a instamatic camera for her birthday and she loves it.  She is also in her own room, which she is really enjoying.

So I mean, except for the fact that no one likes her, she is doing great.  Just kidding, I really hope she is feeling happier about things today.  On to the next decade!

Grade Four

Maria has started fourth grade, next year, as long as we are still at her school, she will start Middle School, how exciting! She is doing very well.  We had kind of a big mess at her school in the beginning.  Toward the end of July, most students at her school get a postcard or letter from their new teacher, this is how they know who will be teaching them.  We know some kids whose parents teach/work at our school and they all told Maria and the others who they had, so everyone was going nuts and I was happy once the cards started rolling in.

Felicity got her letter and Veronica got her letter and Maria got - no letter.  So I emailed the school and asked and I was told who her teacher was.  I told Maria and then when we went to Back to School night, Maria was listed, ALPHABETICALLY, as last on the other teachers list of students.  Maria being Maria, she was kind of freaking out about it and Mike and I were trying to get a ton of supplies dropped off and tend to Veronica and Felicity, especially Felicity, as it was KINDERGARTEN that she was starting.  Anyway, when Maria got to school two days later on Day 1, she was back with the original teacher.  EDITED//

She is doing so well, though.  She is happy and seems to like her teachers (there are two) and it's who she originally wanted so everything is fine for her, which is what matters, right?  RIGHT.  She is doing well in school, she takes tests at the beginning of the year for reading and math to see where she is and she is just fine, although she is doing better in Math than Reading, which is a surprise to me.  I mean, she is in the ninety something percent for Math and seventy something for reading so it's all good but I just - I'm always surprised when they are not exactly the same as I am, ha!

She is playing kickball and doing gymnastics and doing fine in both.  I really don't like gymnastics, I don't think it's necessarily good for her, but she really wants to do it so for right now we are doing it.  Volleyball starts in the spring and I'd love for her to do that, too, we will see.  They all went to the Fair with Mike this year, as I was already at work.  Maria is good and happy and as loud as ever, but I suppose we wouldn't have her any other way!  Here are some cute pictures.

Spring

Spring and headed for summer! It's been so hot.  The other night at Maria's game it was BURNING hot, she was horrified that she had to wear her baseball pants.  Can't I wear SHORTS!?, she asked.  The answer was no.  She has been doing well, at first she was not batting that well but boy, she really  turned it around on Monday at her game.  They also won in the bottom of the sixth, (their last inning), it was great.  I take Veronica and Felicity to Maria's games so I can't exactly what the whole thing, but from what I saw it was good.

Maria is almost in fourth grade! Next year she gets to wear a uniform skirt instead of a jumper.  She wore her jumper the other night to a program and it looked so cute on her, she has been in pants/shorts forever, it was nice to see it again.  She has some eczema on her one shin, it drives us all crazy.  We are trying to remember to put lotion on it every night but it's a pain.  Our nights are getting so short, we barely get home from whatever we were doing and then it's right to bed.  I will be glad when school ends next week, for the first time ever! 

She has had a very successful third grade year, she really makes us proud every day. I try to remember to tell her that because she also drives us crazy every day and I for sure tell her that.